Welcome to the Tales of a Kitchen Witch Blog.
I know that certain subjects are particularly volatile when we talk about parenting, but guess what? Not every single statement you hear is an attack. Sometimes a cup is just a cup.
I don’t choose topics because I have a burning desire to make someone feel bad. I say the things I do because I want to to make people think, and because I’d love to put a dent in all the awful advice we get from uninformed family, friends, and even our doctors.
When I talk about why breastfeeding is awesome, I am not saying you are a bad mother for formula feeding. It isn’t about what you feed your baby, I mean at this point unless you would be willing to give donor milk or relactation a go your baby is getting formula! What I am trying to do is reach new mommies who haven’t yet had to make a decision. I’m working to raise awareness about the benefits of breastfeeding so hopefully they will take the time to do a little research before jumping to formula.
When I say, “I’ve been breastfeeding for blah-blah months!” I am not saying you are a failure because you only did it for an eight, or six, or two month stretch. I’m celebrating something special, something I am proud that I achieved, because lets face it, dodging booby-traps and managing to breastfeed past whatever arbitrary age society deems acceptable is quite spectacular.
When I say, “We homeschool because we think it’s the best for our kids!” I am not saying you are wrong because your children go to school. I’m saying that we made this choice after careful consideration of our options and then reached a mutual decision that this would give the children in our particular family unit the best start in life. I’m well aware that not all parents have the resources, patience, or time to homeschool.
When I say, “I love being a stay at home mom!” I am not saying that being a working mom makes you less awesome than me. I chose to stay home because my personal belief is that my kids are happier having a parent that can bake cookies and clean noses all day long. But if I were a single mom, obviously I’d have to make a different choice. In fact, before I met the huz, Hannah was in daycare while I went to school and worked. I understand that some moms have to work, and some moms choose to work. I’m sure we are all doing the best we can in our circumstances.
When I say, “I am against circumcision and here are my reasons…” I am not saying you are an awful person for having your son circumcised. The reason I talk about it at all is because it is not about your son, or any baby that has been circumcised- it’s about getting info and another perspective to parents who may not be aware that it is ok to leave their not-yet-born son intact. That there are studies that prove the opposite of the things they hear from society, family, and friends. I talk about it because I wish I had been aware of this before I had sons.
I may not always hit the mark but I try to broach trigger subjects such as breastfeeding and intactivism by explaining the reasons for MY choices when it comes to parenting. And I find it baffling how certain statements lead to people yelling at me for judging them for their choices. If I make a statement regarding MY parenting/lifestyle choice it doesn’t automatically mean I think you are a terrible person. I would urge those of you that immediately jump to the conclusion that someone is attacking you to take a deep breath and re-read the statement (or cartoon) before you become offended.