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This comment was left on a facebook post where I stated that I am setting up a daily password for the internet, to only be given out after work and chores are done. Wow. I don’t know whether to laugh or cry. Setting up my internet so it can only be accessed when we have our free time because our teenager has terrible time management issues makes me “mean spirited, rude, and disrespectful” and “smacks of training your kids like dogs”…….Seriously?
Since when does it make you a bad parent if your home has rules for work before play? I have a teenager that is easily distracted and trying to get her to complete her one simple chore can take three hours (its a 30 minute job) and then she has no time to do anything she wants to do. We have tried gently (and then not so gently) reminding her. We have tried just letting it go so she could see the natural consequences of not completing her tasks- which since I get grossed out and clean up for her doesn’t work very well. It is frustrating and we all suffer for it. You know what works? This. She gets her stuff done because she knows when she is done she gets to do the things she wants to do. This is a great compromise. No one (Even me- this isn’t a dictatorship) uses the internet until chores are done.
B went on to say that “A good rule of thumb is, if you wouldn’t treat your spouse or your best friend a particular way, you shouldn’t treat your kids that way either.” Really? My husband works and then comes home to play. Same principle. If he played hooky from work because he felt like doing something else we’d really be in a bind. And the flip side is that although we *do* treat our kids as adults to be, they AREN’T yet adults.
Children need gentle guidance. My home isn’t a dictatorship, but we do have to have some boundaries. I have a daredevil three year old that thinks it would be a great idea to sit on the roof of the car while we drive around the neighborhood. He wants to swing from the ceiling fan and climb the curtains. I’m certainly not going to sit back and let him climb the walls because he feels like it.
We aren’t mean parents. Our home is quite laid back. So laid back that quite often you might find us napping if you dropped by for an impromptu visit. We spend most of our day following the interests of our children. Much of our time is spent laughing, playing and exploring the world. However there are some lessons that we feel are too important for our children to miss. I think it is important to have the ability to finish a project before you run off and play. And since they are struggling with that, I made it easier by making it so we all have to complete our work before we get to have our fun.