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I have a question and I KNOW you are the girl to ask! My son’s father’s girlfriend is breastfeeding. I love the idea of breastfeeding, but I unfortunately was not able to because of meds I take. Because I have had to bottle feed, I’m not so sure if I’m justified in being bothered by something. She was feeding her baby in front of my son (eight years old), and no one explained to him what was going on. He was confused by the fact that he was shown her nipple. He’s never even seen my nipples (lol). I am wondering if they could have taken some better measures to prepare my son? Please don’t take my ignorance offensively I just have mixed feelings on how they went about things, and I feel like a boundary may have been crossed, not physically of course, but emotionally. Any input? Anything that I can do on my end to explain to him that it’s ok to see hers but nobody else’s, or is that just not my place? If he is uncomfortable should he leave the room?
That is a difficult situation, and I’m sure it doesn’t help that she is doing something that you were unable to do. You, however, ALWAYS have the “right” to your feelings. Yes, I think they should have taken a minute to explain what was happening to your son, but at least now you have the opportunity to explain it in a way that makes it normal, you know?
In situations where I had to explain breastfeeding to kids who hadn’t seen it before I always go for simple. I say “breasts are for making milk, and some moms choose to feed their babies their own milk. For moms that can’t make milk, there is formula.” The kid usually looks confused for a minute and then answers “Oh! Like a cow (or cat or dog, etc). And then they either scamper off to play or sit down and chat with me while I finish feeding my baby.
In my opinion, it’s a GREAT thing for boys/young men to see breasts being used for their intended purpose. I think it helps them learn not to objectify women, to see women’s breasts have a function beyond filling out a shirt.
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